Saturday, June 4, 2011

Murphy Was an Asshole

Murphy's Law:  Anything that can go wrong will go wrong.

Well, eat my shorts, Mr. Murphy.  I beg to differ.  I currently find myself in the most challenging time of my life, hands down; curve balls, hurdles and roadside bombs have been lobbed in front of/on top of me over these past few months and I still challenge Murphy.  I have enough significant issues I am sorting through that my therapist says "are you sure your ok?"  However, amongst the things that "have gone wrong", I am constantly aware that there is much MUCH more still at stake.  Even with these crises and tribulations, I have an exorbitant number of blessings that are not "going wrong".

Murphy's laments are a disservice to the riches that surround us, the blessings that we may or may not take for granted every day.  Last week, my daughter who was in a fit of frustration following a scuffle with her sister, a disappointing response from me, and an earlier argument with her best friend bellowed "Argh!" (she literally said "Argh!"),  "Argh!" she said, "How could my life be any worse?"  I was inspired with a fatherly duty.  There is a lesson to be learned, my dear, and daddy's got his lesson plan.

I pulled her aside and challenged her to think about that cry of despair and try to answer that question.  Go ahead and feel the frustration you have (after all, the frustration is real), but also consider the blessings you have in your life (e.g. love, family, friends, food, opportunity, school, etc.) and then ask that question again. She promised me should and a few hours later showed me a list of about 50 blessings she considered in her life and said that there were many ways her life could be worse.  (woot - notify the academy).

Only in losing sight of those blessings does Murphy have a soapbox.  I challenge everyone to seek those blessings and revel in them.  I'm not saying that you have to not feel the pain associated with things that do go wrong - call them trials, perhaps failures - but in the following breath remember your blessings are still abound. Not honoring them transfers the power of these riches into the pockets of the bummers.

A wise armchair theologian named David said to me "No matter how bad things seem, I wake up in the morning and recognize all of the things that could have gone wrong yesterday and didn't".


rjleach said...

Someone once said, "this too shall pass", I think it was said to someone who was in pain, for me, it was the realization that this fabulous life I'm having at present is quickly coming to an end...and I will have to go back to work! While being on maternity leave can only be described as something similiar to a comment I recently heard which was a bad day on the golf course is still better than a good one in the office...
So I agree, enjoy the simple pleasures life has to offer and enjoy the good with the bad and as I say to my 6 month old as he's belting out cries at 84 decibles (I measured), your life really isn't that me!
So Jay, I love this blog and you write so well, perhaps you should save it all up for a book and make some money :) just use this forum for practice! What's life been throwing at you?
Miss ya!

Cilla said...

Well-said, and good job with the kiddo who melted down then realized her riches abound. A good lesson for me, as well. Spew forth, my brother. Amen and hallelujah!

Anonymous said...

[on behalf of Dennis L]
“Anything that can possibly go wrong does”
Various authors’ (See Wikipedia)


I have always considered Murphy to be a bit more benign. Although the term used above is “wrong”, I have looked at it with the opinion that:

The events caused by the ill-advised Murphy’s statement are a meme initiating the creation of its own stated results, as all meme’s do, and are similar to the hijinks of a leprechaun –

Irritating practical jokes messing with my life –
Created by a slightly naughty entity
out of mischievous love –
Who never sleeps!

Deep in the proverbial swamp

Anonymous said...

Thank you Dennis, Cilla and Rebecca. I really appreciate your responses. Your participation is the highest compliment you can offer.